We all have expectations of ourselves and others. There are times when we just have to let them go. I'll say it again...There are times when we have to let go of our expectations. Why?
It's simple because it's like carry a weight around your neck. It gets very heavy and can drain us of the present moment.
When we expect someone to act a certain way, we usually end up feeling disappointed. We cannot control what others do. We can never control what others say or do. We must go into the relationship, without feeling like the other person needs to change. Otherwise...again...we are disappointed.
As far as ourselves, we cannot judge oneself too harshly. Are the expectations we have of ourselves realistic? Or, are they too much? There is a saying... Rome wasn't built in a day...
It means that you cannot expect to change yourself or who you are, without work and time.
If we have realistic goals, then by all means, go for it. But, make sure that you are being fair with yourself. Always be Fair with You! You are worth it.
In conclusion, let go of your expectations of others. They will not change, unless they want to. As far as expectations of yourself, make sure they are realistic and attainable.
BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND :)