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Deb

Thinking Outside The Box

Everyone who has had a great idea, had to think outside the box. They broke away from the uniformity of a group, and started something new. People sometimes frown on individuals who do this. Why? It is because no one else thought that way.

In order to become what we are truly meant to be, we need to have the courage to express our own ideas, even if we think about something differently. It's challenging. As individuals, we are like no other on this earth. We are unique and different. That gives us a wonderful opportunity for us to expand our gifts and teach others.

It is a bit scary at first, but we can overcome our fear of looking silly or feeling uncomfortable. We need to take the risk, and be who we really are, even if others don't approve. We are all contributing something to the world. We all have different attributes that are important to express. So, let's give it a go, and let others know who we really are.

Talk To Deb: Follow Me

Talk To Deb: Follow Me: "What is it about us, that as human beings, we enjoy being followed? I don't mean that in the literal sense, like someone being followed in a..."

Expectations

We all have expectations of ourselves and others. There are times when we just have to let them go. I'll say it again...There are times when we have to let go of our expectations. Why?

It's simple because it's like carry a weight around your neck. It gets very heavy and can drain us of the present moment.

When we expect someone to act a certain way, we usually end up feeling disappointed. We cannot control what others do. We can never control what others say or do. We must go into the relationship, without feeling like the other person needs to change. Otherwise...again...we are disappointed.

As far as ourselves, we cannot judge oneself too harshly. Are the expectations we have of ourselves realistic? Or, are they too much? There is a saying... Rome wasn't built in a day...

It means that you cannot expect to change yourself or who you are, without work and time.

If we have realistic goals, then by all means, go for it. But, make sure that you are being fair with yourself. Always be Fair with You! You are worth it.

In conclusion, let go of your expectations of others. They will not change, unless they want to. As far as expectations of yourself, make sure they are realistic and attainable.

BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND :)

Talk To Deb: 5 things that can help you Change your Life

Talk To Deb: 5 things that can help you Change your Life: "1. Give yourself credit - I am sure you have done something today that made you feel like you have accomplished something...Look hard and y..."

5 things that can help you Change your Life

1. Give yourself credit - I am sure you have done something today that made you feel like you have accomplished something...Look hard and you will find something

2. Accept your short comings - We all have them. It's time you see you "faults" and are OK with them.

3. Fill your head with positivity - You are really OK just the way you are. You have so many beautiful qualities...just take inventory,

4. Follow your heart - You heart usually can lead you to your passion...Listen to it!

5. Let go of the past - It doesn't exist anymore...it did exist, or once was, now it's OVER.

Transitions

We are always experiencing transitions from our early childhood into adulthood. We are born, and transition into life, and a whole new world awaits us. There are so many new things to explore and understand. As we grow, we reach milestones that we never thought we could reach. Sometimes the transitions are hard, and we fight going through the change, but in the end, we are better for them.

Change brings growth, and when we grow, we understand ourselves in a clearer way. Many times, it is the beginning of us becoming our best selves. We are pushed in a direction, that we wouldn't ordinarily go in. The outcome can be amazing.

Let's take this journey together, and press on in changes we need to have in our lives. We will become better because of them.

Follow Me

What is it about us, that as human beings, we enjoy being followed? I don't mean that in the literal sense, like someone being followed in a dark alley! We love when people follow our blogs, our great moves on the tennis court, or our advice. I think it validates what we do and who we are. We follow someone we admire and respect. So here's to following...especially when you follow me :)

Getting Older

Getting older is really a blessing. I think I have learned to appreciate the meaning of what it is to live and appreciate life. I realize more and more that what I have is enough. I don't need any more stuff to make me happier. I see the things around me as blessings. I am enough...just the way I am.

Overcoming Ourselves and Manifesting our True Desires

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Overcoming Ourselves and Manifesting our True Desires

I have been writing a blog and posting motivational quotes on Face Book in my group, TalktoDeb. I actually started it because I needed to read some inspiring words myself. My Dad and my father-in-law have been sick, in and out of hospitals, and needless to say, it's been stressful. When I wrote my feelings on paper, it created a release for me. Also, reading positive messages and inspirational sayings seemed to lift my mood.

Here's what I found. If you believe in something very strongly...you can make it happen. If you focus on that one goal, your dreams can come true. You have to be persistent, but if you stay on track, it will happen.

I found every reason on earth not follow through and write. First I felt brain dead. In other words, I had writer's block. But, I wasn't even an author! How could I not figure out what to say? I decided to let it go and come back refreshed the next day.

The following day arrives, and I get up and decide to blog right away. The house is quiet enough, and I start to feel inspired. I write a beautiful blog about how I want to reinvent my TalktoDeb blog and bring it to the next level.

After it's all written, I want to cut, copy, and paste something I wrote previously, and add it to this amazing story. I do that, and feel accomplished, satisfied, and proud. Maybe there is a chance I could be an author? Everybody else in the world seems to creating blogs, and some are making money with them! I delete the old post and return to my finished masterpiece; but instead of deleting the old post, I delete the new one that I spent over 2 hours writing.

I was pissed off, to say the least. I started getting angry and tried everything to fix my mistake. Nothing worked. I needed another break. This time I headed straight to TJ Maxx, like a lion on the prowl. I needed a fix and I called it shopping. After spending some money, on stuff I definitely didn't need, I came home.

I wondered if this blogging and writing stuff was worth my time? I had thoughts about doing something else. My daughter was home baking cupcakes. Maybe we should open up a small bakery and post inspirational messages on the cupcakes?

I had a dilemma. But, did I really have one? I didn't. In fact I knew in my heart that I was not supposed to be baking cupcakes. I was meant to write. Even if no one reads any of it, I felt that writing was a kind of calling. Then I hit the wrong button and this came up published, and I wasn't finished. Could I cut, copy, and paste correctly this time? Yes I could!

In life we must overcome any obstacles that are in our way, to get the final result. In my case, it was writing this blog! If you know what your passion is, follow your heart, and don't let anything deter you. Stay on that path, until you reach your dream.

Overcoming Ourselves and Manifesting our True Desires

I have been writing a blog and posting motivational quotes on Face Book in my group, TalktoDeb. I actually started it because I needed to read some inspiring words myself. My Dad and my father-in-law have been sick, in and out of hospitals, and needless to say, it's been stressful. When I wrote my feelings on paper, it created a release for me. Also, reading positive messages and inspirational sayings seemed to lift my mood.

Here's what I found. If you believe in something very strongly...you can make it happen. If you focus on that one goal, your dreams can come true. You have to be persistent, but if you stay on track, it will happen.

I found every reason on earth not follow through and write. First I felt brain dead. In other words, I had writer's block. But, I wasn't even an author! How could I not figure out what to say? I decided to let it go and come back refreshed the next day.

The following day arrives, and I get up and decide to blog right away. The house is quiet enough, and I start to feel inspired. I write a beautiful blog about how I want to reinvent my TalktoDeb blog and bring it to the next level.

After it's all written, I want to cut, copy, and paste something I wrote previously, and add it to this amazing story. I do that, and feel accomplished, satisfied, and proud. Maybe there is a chance I could be an author? Everybody else in the world seems to creating blogs, and some are making money with them! I delete the old post and return to my finished masterpiece; but instead of deleting the old post, I delete the new one that I spent over 2 hours writing.

I was pissed off, to say the least. I started getting angry and tried everything to fix my mistake. Nothing worked. I needed another break. This time I headed straight to TJ Maxx, like a lion on the prowl. I needed a fix and I called it shopping. After spending some money, on stuff I definitely didn't need, I came home.

I wondered if this blogging and writing stuff was worth my time? I had thoughts about doing something else. My daughter was home baking cupcakes. Maybe we should open up a small bakery and post inspirational messages on the cupcakes?

I had a dilemma.

Mental Illness

Mental illness is a very broad topic, and yet the more people I talk to, the more I see that it exists in many families. That is why I decided to write about it. It's something that is not openly talked about, yet the psychological effects on a family can be devastating. I know this because of experiences within my own family.

I do not claim to take the place of a psychiatrist, (whose job is assessing a patient and providing medication.) I cannot diagnose, treat or provide services rendered by a certified social worker. I have worked in various nursing homes and hospital settings as a social worker and saw what it can do to a family unit. My opinions and advice come from my heart, life experiences, course studies, and interactions with professional colleagues.

The road of a person who has a mental illness is a very long one. To even get a correct diagnosis can be exhausting. That is because, some of the characteristics overlap from one disease to the next. Is the person bi-polar, manic depressive, clinically depressed, have anxiety disorder, mood swings, or are they schizophrenic?

It is very important to go to someone who is professional, has experience and knowledge in the field, and who you can feel comfortable with. Getting the correct diagnosis is key. After that, if medication is needed, a psychiatrist, nurse practitioner, or pharmacologist can provide you with medication.

I need to stress the fact that the family, and the person experiencing the pain are NOT alone. There are support groups to help the family cope and avoid the feeling of isolation There is one organization called the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) that can give a family resources and tools to deal with the numerous problems that occur. It can be easily found on the computer or getting the telephone number from directory assistance.

I think that there is a feeling of shame when someone is diagnosed. The person and their family are embarrassed, afraid, and angry; all at the same time. This is why support from others is so important. When someone is diagnosed with heart disease and needs medication, people view it differently. We all need to change the way we look at these illnesses, and the only way to do this, is to talk about it openly.

I hope that I have cleared up some of the misconceptions and wish you health and well being. I will write more about shame in my next blog. I believe that anyone can get through this process with professional support, understanding, and guidance.

With love & support

Debbie

Talk To Deb: Weight

Talk To Deb: Weight: "I believe that weight gain or loss, for most people is a mental thing. When I'm stressed, it's easy to see me at the refrigerator door looki..."

Weight

I believe that weight gain or loss, for most people is a mental thing. When I'm stressed, it's easy to see me at the refrigerator door looking for something sweet. Am I hungry? NO...but it would be nice to taste something good!

Emotional eating is tied up with your self esteem. You are craving something, but it's not food. It can be love, acceptance, or a myriad of issues. But, it's Not about Food!

So, we need to dig deeper than that. It's a need for something more...we don't feel filled up for some reason. The real issues are harder to deal with than eating something for a temporary fix. Our emotions are connected to how we behave. If our emotions are out of whack, we eat or sometimes stop eating.

Starving yourself and not eating is another form of self expression. It's covering up feelings of insecurity, feeling less than someone else, or not deserving of food, or other pleasant things. We all need to work hard at looking at ourselves and examining what we see in the mirror. We need to face ourselves and knock down our barriers, to be clear of who we are. The reality is that most of us sell ourselves short, and don't see how beautiful and unique we really are. Let's look in the mirror and see our specialness...We all need to see beyond what a mirror might see and turn inward for the answers.

Suddenly Stressed

I woke up on this Monday morning, and felt very good. I even got on the treadmill and did 35 minutes at mostly a 4.0 pace. This is an accomplishment, mostly because I haven't exercised in months. I used to do 5 miles a day for awhile. I got stressed and tired and stopped. It was like I saw a STOP sign and I put the brakes on.

I was doing laundry, making my bed, and all those things that seem to always need attention, at least on a weekly basis. Then the telephone rang and my step mom told me something that I didn't want to hear. She said that the doctor who was treating my Dad for cleaning his diabetic wounds, decided that my Dad's foot should be amputated.

All of a sudden my throat started to close up, and I started feeling sick. One moment can change everything, and yet we live like we have forever. I guess we do that to stay sane. Anyway, needless to say; I was upset...very upset.

At this point I need to explain my father's condition. He is 80 years old, has diabetes, a shunt in his head, heart disease, and many other medical issues. He is in a nursing home and is in bed most of the time. When he gets moved by a ho yer lift, and put in a geriatric chair, he lays there, unable to feed or dress himself. He is dependent on those around him to fill his every need.

He responds to certain things and recognizes me when I see him. I thank g-d for that, but he has no quality of life.

Now a surgeon steps in and feels his leg needs amputation! He must be kidding me. My Dad has no quality of life now, and they want to put him through surgery...I don't think so! I feel that many doctors operate when they don't have to. I remember when I worked in a proprietary hospital and a surgeon wanted to operate on a 88 year old women because she had the beginning stages of breast cancer. The family refused, and rightfully so. Why operate on an elderly person is it's not going to improve their life. There is one answer to the question...Money.

This got me very upset. I don't want to put my father through anymore surgeries. He has had enough of them. He is not in any pain now, and is comfortable. I refuse to make his life any worse than it has been.

The morals of this story is you must speak up when you feel something is not being done right. Another moral is life can change on a dime, so appreciate those you have; good or bad. The last one is how people respond to stress. For me, my throat closes up, I get TMJ, or my back goes out. I think we all have physical ailments that act up when we are stressed.

In closing, I want to thank you for listening, and I hope we can all can understand how pressure can affect our physical bodies and our mental outlook. I found that I needed to absorb everything first, and then make sense of it. Writing this has helped me, and I thank you for listening.

Debbie

Talking to you, from TalktoDeb

The Future

Our future is a blank slate; which we have the key. If you think about it, our future is ours to make. No matter how many mistakes we make, how many hurts we have, we have the future to do what we want with. It's a great way to look at life, and a bit scary to. We are responsible for what we create in our future. We can make changes, so that our future looks nothing like our past. Basically, we can transform our future to something totally different from what we knew.

It gives us the opportunity to make changes...What changes can you make that can have a positive effect on your future?

Today is the Day for Action

Have you been thinking about writing a book, traveling somewhere, or applying for a new job? Whatever it is that you want to do; just take the first step toward doing it. It doesn't have to be perfect, or timed exactly right. If you just take some action, you will have started the whole process. Once you begin, you will get more comfortable doing it, and it will become easier.

Sometimes we hold ourselves back from trying something we always wanted to do. What could happen? The world won't end if you take a chance on yourself. Just do it, plan it, or arrange for it to happen!

Once you do, you will feel so good about it. We all have fears that need to be overcome, so why put it off? Make that telephone call you have needed to make, write a couple of pages in your book, or send your resumes out to different places, and you'll be so glad you did.

Is there anything that you want to do and you keep saying that the time isn't right? Go do it!
Taking action always makes us feel so much better!

Live Your Best Life

How can we fully enjoy our life? We have to be engaged in it and commited to our personal growth. What does that mean, you may ask? It means you have to give a damn about yourself, your relationships, and your life. If you are not commited...it ain't happening.

How do we commit? As the years go by, I find myself more concerned about my health, who I choose as friends, what I have in common with the people I surround myself with, and in giving more to myself. More of what? More of everything, if it's pleasurable. (and that includes more vanilla ice cream and more colored sprinkles!)

I know now that time is fleeting, and I don't want to waste it on anything I don't enjoy. The years are passing so quickly now; and I know that we only have limited time, so why not choose to enjoy yourself? This means making an effort to go somewhere because you know you'll have fun!

The one good thing about getting older is that you give yourself permission to be, do what you want, when you want to. You know that this isn't a dress rehearsal, so why not live, laugh, or even cry if you feel it.

How do you live your best life? You do it by letting go of the should haves, would haves, cannot, and will not, and do what you really want to do. Taking action is key to living your best life. If it doesn't work out...you can change it.

So in this stage of my life, I will try new things, do old things that I enjoy, (my husband comes to mind) and find what's meaningful to me. I will discover, create, and post things I think about on this blog...so stay tuned...there is more of this good stuff to come!

Thanks for reading!

Getting Away

We all need to take some time for ourselves. It's not an easy task. Our minds resist it. We think of all the reasons why we can't, shouldn't, or won't. If we can get past that, and give ourselves the permission to get away, we see how much we needed it. It's literally a break from our routine. As much as we love what we do each day, a break can give us perspective.

Getting away can help us answer questions, that have been unanswered. It can provide an opportunity to get to hear ourselves think, breathe, and be. It's a needed opportunity to get a different glimpse of our partner, children, or significant other. (crazy name for almost a spouse!)

So, in conclusion, take that break, time away, and change up your routine. It might be what you have secretly needed, and didn't give yourself the room to do. I highly recommend it! Short or long, it's necessary to give yourself the time you need.

Talk To Deb: The Birth Of Self

Talk To Deb: The Birth Of Self: "'Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.' George Sheehan ..."

The Birth Of Self

"Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be."


George Sheehan said this, and it made me think...what do I enjoy more than anything? I love to write and help people and feel that's my calling. I realize now that's why I worked as a social worker in various nursing homes and hospitals and also as a substitute teacher...I feel good inside when I can be of service to someone...young or old, or in-between,





That's why I started this blog and formed a group on FB. I wanted this to have a positive impact on all people, and help them in anyway I could...thus began a group on Talktodeb. I am proud to say I have 115 people who have the opportunity to read what I post, and make shifts in their lives because of any inspiration they might find on my blog.





I would love more people to join me in this journey, and participate in the group. My goal is to help anyone who needs a boost, and make them a part of this group and follow me on my blog...


I offer this to anyone who needs some support, a hand to hold, or a hug. They can have this if we start revealing how our lives are going...are we happy? Do we need to change something, and make our lives more meaningful? I think we can all benefit from this, because we have the support of the people in the group.





So I ask you to share, and post things that could make a difference in someones life...Join, and see how far we can go!!!





With Gratitude,


Debbie


http://talktodeb.blogspot.com/


Deb10356@aol.com

Alice's Bucket List: It's manic

Alice's Bucket List: It's manic: "I know I said this yesterday, but I can't believe that so many people have taken an interest in my blog. They even mentioned me on This Mor..." Let's help someone in need

Talk To Deb: Spiritual Journey

Talk To Deb: Spiritual Journey: "We all need to figure out who we Really are. Deep down inside...Why? When we begin the process it can uncover our uniqueness, our desires, ..."

Spiritual Journey

We all need to figure out who we Really are. Deep down inside...Why? When we begin the process it can uncover our uniqueness, our desires, weaknesses, and abilities.

For me, it's important because it helps me go in the direction I want to live my life. It helps me understand why I react to other people the way I do. It provides me with insights into the person I will spend my entire life with...Me :)

It's difficult and rewarding all at once. It's gives me pleasure to see how far I've come and gives me pain to see where I have been. Either way, for me it's a win win situation..Knowing who I am never ends because I am constantly growing and changing...which can be very confusing at times...but, I'd rather live in lightness than in the dark

What about you? Is it important to figure out who you are?

With Gratitude,

Debbie

Talk To Deb: Weight Loss

Talk To Deb: Weight Loss: "Coaching Techniques/Weight Loss. You are entitled to live life at your desired weight. It can be a reality. I will guide you toward your goa..."

Weight Loss

Coaching Techniques/Weight Loss. You are entitled to live life at your desired weight. It can be a reality. I will guide you toward your goal weight.

Invision Yourself in A New Body

Can you see yourself losing weight and invision how you will feel?

It's a goal you can meet, with a determined attitude. It not only about eating right, exercising, drinking water, and avoiding those "bad" foods.

It's a mental mindset; and I can help you get there.

I will prepare you for your journey of losing pound by pound; while becoming aware of what could be blocking you from your goal weight.

Please contact me for the details.

With Gratitude,
Debbie

E-mail: Deb10356@aol.com

http://talktodeb.blogspot.com

Talk To Deb: SUMMER FUN

Talk To Deb: SUMMER FUN: "GO BIKE RIDING...BLOW BUBBLES...HAVE AN AFTERNOON TEA OUTSIDE, DRAW A CHALK PICTURE ON THE SIDEWALK. PLANT A GARDEN...GO FOR A LONG WALK (W..."

SUMMER FUN

GO BIKE RIDING...BLOW BUBBLES...HAVE AN AFTERNOON TEA OUTSIDE, DRAW A CHALK PICTURE ON THE SIDEWALK.

PLANT A GARDEN...GO FOR A LONG WALK (WITHOUT YOUR CELLPHONE!)...HIT THE ROAD WITH A WARM WEATHER PLAY LIST ...EAT AN ICE CREAM CONE (YUMMY)...LINE DRY YOUR LAUNDRY...FLY A KITE...VISIT A FARM.

READ A BOOK UNDER A TREE...EAT LOCALLY...FEED THE DUCKS...GO TO THE ZOO...CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET (YOU'LL FEEL BETTER AFTERWARDS)...MAKE SOME DONATIONS TO A LOCAL CLOTHING DRIVE...PACK A PICNIC...BUY A HAMMOCK...COLLECT SHELLS AT THE BEACH (JUST LIKE WHEN YOU WERE LITTLE)...GO FISHING (YOU MIGHT CATCH SOMETHING :) )....HIKE A TRAIL....SMILE AND LAUGH OFTEN...ENJOY YOU SUMMER :)

DEBBIE

Talk To Deb: Dalai Lama - Happiness

Talk To Deb: Dalai Lama - Happiness: "Dalai Lama Love, compassion and concern for others are real sources of happiness. If you have these in abundance, you will not be d..."

Dalai Lama - Happiness

Dalai Lama

Love, compassion and concern for others are real sources of happiness. If you have these in abundance, you will not be disturbed even by the most uncomfortable circumstances. If you nurse hatred, however, you will not be happy even in the lap of luxury. Thus, if we really want happiness, we must widen the sphere of love. This is both religious thinking and basic common sense.

ENDINGS & NEW BEGINNINGS

WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES, ANOTHER ONE OPENS...ISN'T THAT WHAT THEY SAY? BY THEY...I MEAN PEOPLE. I THINK THAT'S TRUE BECAUSE YOU CREATE ROOM TO HAVE SOMETHING ELSE IN YOUR LIFE. IT'S A TRANSITION...A CHANGE...WHICH CAN BE A BIT SCARY FOR US.

I JUST ATTENDED MY DAUGHTER'S GRADUATION FROM THE UNIVERSITY OF BINGHAMTON. AS THE GRADUATING CLASS THREW THEIR CAPS UP IN THE AIR...I THOUGHT....THEY HAVE THEIR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF THEM...CAREER CHOICES, MASTERS PROGRAMS, LIFE DECISIONS, TAKING ONE ROAD AND ELIMINATING ANOTHER. MAYBE THAT'S WHY WE FEAR ENDINGS...IN SOME WAYS IT CLOSES THE DOOR ON OTHER CHOICES OR OPPORTUNITIES...BUT IF YOU FOLLOW YOUR PASSION, HEART'S DESIRE, AND MAKE A CHOICE...THE FEAR SOMEHOW SUBSIDES A BIT. EVEN IF THE ROAD YOU CHOOSE ISN'T RIGHT FOR YOU...THERE WILL ALWAYS BE ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO FOLLOW A NEW PATH IN A DIFFERENT DIRECTION.

MAKE A CHOICE...CHOOSE A BEGINNING (OR SOMETIMES IT JUST HAPPENS) AND SEE WHAT'S AROUND THE BEND...IT MIGHT BE ALL THAT YOU HOPED FOR AND MORE....GOOD LUCK TO THE GRADUATES AND TO ALL OF US WHO ARE EXPERIENCING ENDINGS...THERE'S A BEGINNING AROUND THE CORNER :)

http://talktodeb.blogspot.com

TALK TO DEB IS A GROUP ON FACEBOOK THAT I CREATED BECAUSE I WANTED TO HAVE AN INTERACTIVE FORUM WHERE PEOPLE FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD (THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE FROM AUSTRALIA & AFRICA), TO SHARE THEIR IDEAS, THOUGHTS, MOTIVATIONS, INSPIRATIONS, AND LIFE LESSONS WITH EACH OTHER.

THOUGHT PROVOKING QUESTIONS ARE POSTED, WONDERFUL QUOTES, SHORT MOVIES, AND A BLOG PAGE WHERE I WRITE ABOUT DIFFERENT TOPICS THAT ARE CLOSE TO MY HEART.

PLEASE SHARE YOU STORY/JOURNEY, BLOG PAGE, WITH OTHERS AND GET CONNECTED WITH EACH OTHER. AFTER ALL, WE ONLY TAKE THIS ROAD ONE TIME AND ANYTHING WE CAN SHARE, LEARN, OR POSSIBLY GIVE HOPE TO SOMEONE ELSE CAN BE GRATIFYING AND REWARDING.

LET'S ALL TALK TO DEB :)

WITH GRATITUDE,

DEBBIE

ONLY YOU

THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON WHO REALLY KNOWS WHO YOU ARE, WHAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE, YOUR DOUBTS AND FEARS, AND THE INNER YOU.

IT IS YOU. NO ONE ELSE HAS THE ANSWERS. THEY CAN HELP, GUIDE, TALK, AND GIVE YOU PERSPECTIVE; BUT THE REAL ANSWERS ARE INSIDE OURSELVES.

WE CAN ASK OTHERS...WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP, CHANGE MY JOB, MOVE TO ANOTHER HOUSE, OR PUSH MYSELF MORE IN AN AREA OF INTEREST? LOOK IN THE MIRROR...YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT TO DO ... LOOK INWARD...INTO YOU HEART AND SOUL...YOU HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS...NOW.

LET'S ALL TRY TO BE COURAGEOUS AND LISTEN TO HEAR OUR VOICE AND CONNECT WITH OURSELVES. OUR LIVES CAN MIRACULOUSLY CHANGE IF WE LEARN TO DO THIS...IT'S NOT SIMPLE, BUT WORTH THE EFFORT.

DEBBIE

REMEMBERING MY MOM

TODAY IS 30 YEARS SINCE MY MOM PASSED AWAY...30 YEARS...I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S BEEN THAT LONG SINCE I'VE SEEN, KISSED, HUGGED, OR SPENT TIME WITH YOU. I STILL MISS YOU NOW, AS MUCH AS I DID BEFORE. IT'S BEEN HARD GROWING UP WITHOUT A ROLE MODEL TO FOLLOW. I FEEL THAT I MISSED OUT ON FULLY KNOWING YOU...YOU WERE ONLY 52...I DIDN'T THINK I WOULD LIVE TO SEE THAT AGE.

AND YET, HERE I SIT AND WRITE ABOUT YOU...OLDER, SOMETIMES A BIT WISER...BUT THE LONGING FOR YOU NEVER WANES. I THINK I HAD TO GROW UP FASTER BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE YOU AROUND...MOTHER'S DAYS ARE ALWAYS DIFFICULT WITHOUT YOU.

EVEN THOUGH I AM A MOTHER OF 2 BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS, JEN IS ALMOST 25, AND STEF IS 22, I STILL WANT MINE. I WISH YOU COULD OF SEEN THEM...I COULD SEE THE JOY ON YOUR FACE...IF YOU HAD.

THE MISSING HOLE NEVER GETS FILLED UP BECAUSE, NO ONE COULD EVER FILL YOUR SHOES :)

LOVE AND PEACE TO YOU ALWAYS

DEBBIE

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My name is Deborah Saporta and I am a teacher, tutor, social worker, and writer. I write a blog page at http://talktodeb.blogspot.com which gives people a sense of who I am, while giving inspiration and motivation to people of all ages. I also have a group on FB where I try to inspire people to live to their fullest potential. My goal is to be the next Dear Abby on the Internet. I am passionate about helping people find their inner strength and inspire them to reach their goals and attain their dreams. If you want to contact me, please e-mail Deb10356@aol.com.
With Gratitude,
Debbie

Skills

Teacher/Counselor , Tutor , Social Worker , Writer

Professional History

Employment:
Sep 1997-Present	Substitute Teacher at Commack School District/WyzAnt Tutoring/Lif...
Commack School District/WyzAnt Tutoring/Life Coach Employment at Commack School District/WyzAnt Tutoring/Life Coach: Title: Substitute Teacher Department: Education Part-time Employee Industry: Education From Sep 1997 to Present Follow Lesson Plan provided by Teacher Teach the students the subject required Keep the students under control in classroom Take attendance, collect paperwork, check mailbox, write note to teacher about the daily activities. Keep staff informed of ongoing daily activities
Associations:
2010-2011	Commack School District/WyzAnt Tutoring/Life Coach
Commack School District/WyzAnt Tutoring/Life Coach Membership: 2010-2011 Inspirational Advice/Quotes/Personal Blogs Talk To Deb gives people advice on how to reach their potential and feel supported with any emotional changes they are going through. Advice is given on-line and is kept confidential and private. Please feel free to E-mail me at Deb10356@aol.com or check out my blog page at http://talktodeb.blogspot.com. I'd love to hear from you. Please know that I care and I am here to help...I'm the next Dear Abby on-line. With gratitude, Debbie

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MOMENTS IN TIME

IN OUR LIVES WE ARE GIVEN MOMENTS...THE SPRING AIR, THE SUN ON OUR FACE, THE RED ROBIN CHIRPING, A FRIEND'S SMILE, A GENTLE TOUCH. THESE ARE WHAT ARE LIVES ARE MADE UP OF...MOMENTS IN TIME.

AS I GROW OLDER, I KNOW THAT IT IS THESE MOMENTS THAT ARE THE ONES TO BE TREASURED...IT'S THE SMALL THINGS IN LIFE THAT SEEM TO MATTER IN THE END.

WE ALL SEEM TO SPEND MANY OF OUR YEARS STRIVING TO ACCOMPLISH AND SUCCEED. GO TO SCHOOL, LAND THAT JOB, BECOME FINANCIALLY SECURE, MEET THAT SPECIAL PERSON, CREATE THAT LIFE. AND THEN WHAT? ONCE WE HAVE ALL THAT...IS OUR LIFE FULFILLED OR COMPLETE?

I THINK IN SOME WAYS IT IS BECAUSE WE HAVE MET SOME OF OUR GOALS...BUT IN THE END; AT LEAST FOR ME...IT'S THOSE SMALL MOMENTS THAT I HOLD THE DEAREST TO MY HEART.

WHAT ARE YOUR MOMENTS IN TIME?

DEBBIE

THE DAYS OF OUR LIVES

THEY ARE DEFINITELY GOING TOO QUICKLY.

THEY SHOULD BE SPENT HAPPILY...BECAUSE SOMETHING IN YOUR LIFE IS WORTH SMILING ABOUT.

THEY ARE FLEETING MOMENTS IN TIME.

THEY SHOULD BE THOROUGHLY ENJOYED, DOING WHAT YOU WANT ... AS LONG AS NO ONE GETS HURT...AND THERE ARE EVEN TIMES, WHEN YOU MUST TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF...EVEN IF IT "HURTS" SOMEONE ELSE.

LET'S ALL ENJOY THE REST OF THE DAYS OF OUR LIVES...

DEBBIE

MOTHERS

I THOUGH IT WOULD BE FITTING TO WRITE ABOUT MOTHERS, SINCE SUNDAY IS THE DAY WE CELEBRATE ALL OF THEM. A MOTHER IS SO MANY THINGS TO HER CHILD...TEACHER, GUIDE, PROTECTOR, FRIEND, AND UNCONDITIONALLY GIVES LOVE AND SUPPORT. WE HAVE THEM IN OUR LIVES DAY 1. A MOTHER'S LOVE FEELS LIKE A BLANKET OVER US, A FLUFFY PILLOW, OR OUR FAVORITE STUFFED ANIMAL. MY MOM HAS BEEN GONE 30 YEARS AND I MISS HER SO MUCH. I DON'T HAVE THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE TO GO TO WITH A SILLY QUESTION, WHEN I'M FEELING SAD, OR WHEN I HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL TO SHARE. I HAVE THE MEMORIES OF HER SMILE, KINDNESS, AND LAUGHTER...SHE WAS A SPECIAL WOMEN...A MOTHER, WIFE, TEACHER, AND FRIEND. I WILL CELEBRATE ON SUNDAY FOR HER, AS WELL AS ME. I WILL CELEBRATE HER LIFE, AND THE LIFE I CREATED BECAUSE OF WHO SHE WAS.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY EVERYONE :)

DEBBIE

FEAR

THE ONLY WAY TO OVERCOME FEAR IS TO LOOK IT IN THE FACE. HEAD TO HEAD...EYES TO EYES...BECAUSE IT'S PART OF YOU. LIKE IT OR NOT, IT WILL BE WITH YOU THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE. IF WE ACCEPT THAT, WE CAN DEAL WITH IT. WE MIGHT NOT LIKE IT...BUT IT IS NOT GOING ANYWHERE.

TO REDUCE IT...WORK UP THE COURAGE TO CONFRONT IT...WHAT'S THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN? (MY MOM WOULD ALWAYS SAY THAT :) ) IT WON'T KILL YOU OR KNOCK YOU DOWN FOR THE COUNT. IT MIGHT BE PARALIZING FOR SOME PEOPLE, BUT THE ONLY WAY TO DEAL WITH IT IS TO DIRECTLY LOOK AT IT.

ONCE THAT IS DONE, YOU CAN TAKE BABY STEPS TOWARD IT...WHAT EXACTLY CAN HAPPEN IF YOU...TAKE THE JOB, GET MARRIED, GO TO ANOTHER STATE, QUIT SOMETHING YOU DON'T ENJOY, ETC? TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TOWARD YOUR FEAR AND YOU WILL NOTICE, IT WILL START TO CHANGE FROM THAT BIG, OVERWHELMING THING; TO A MUCH SMALLER, LESS THREATENING FEELING OF BEING SCARY.

WHEN FURTHER CONFRONTED...IT WILL BECOME MUCH LESS THAN SCARY...AND GET SMALLER AND SMALLER EACH TIME.

LET'S TAKE THE JOURNEY...YOU HAVE NOTHING ON US...FEAR SEEMS ALMOST FOOLISH NOW.

DEBBIE

POTHOLES

"STOP WORRYING ABOUT THE POTHOLES IN THE ROAD AND CELEBRATE THE JOURNEY."

-BARBARA HOFFMAN-

LET'S NOT LET THE POTHOLES STOP US...WE CAN GO AROUND THEM, JUMP OVER SOME, AND TOTALLY AVOID OTHERS. THE MORE WE KNOW OURSELVES...THE MORE WE REALIZE THAT POTHOLES ARE ONLY A DETOUR ON THE WAY TO GET TO KNOW OURSELVES. WE WILL NEVER LIVE POTHOLE FREE...BUT KNOWING THEY CAN COME UP....HELPS US KNOW OUR TRUER SELVES MUCH MORE . JUST FIGURING OUT THAT LIFE IS NOT PERFECT AND THERE WILL BE BUMPS IN THE ROAD...IS A LESSON TO BE LEARNED. HERE'S TO THE RIDE :)

DEBBIE

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Let's look in the Mirror

"Love yourself first and everything else, falls in line"

-Lucille Ball-

I would have to agree with this Lucy. When you work on loving who you are, accepting your strengths and weaknesses, you learn that you are ENOUGH. There is no one quite like you...you are unique, and have qualities beyond measure that are yours to give. Let's go step by step and move forward in loving who we are. Most people are born and are innately good. Sometimes, our experiences get in the way...but if you look closely in the mirror and fill your heart with acceptance...you will slowly learn to smile when you see yourself! :)

Debbie

Talk To Deb: REALITY

Talk To Deb: REALITY: "IS THERE ONE REALITY? IT DEPENDS ON WHO IS LOOKING. EVERYBODY GETS UP IN THE MORNING; GOES TO WORK, SCHOOL, EATS, SLEEPS, TALKS WITH OTHERS...."

REALITY

IS THERE ONE REALITY? IT DEPENDS ON WHO IS LOOKING. EVERYBODY GETS UP IN THE MORNING; GOES TO WORK, SCHOOL, EATS, SLEEPS, TALKS WITH OTHERS...BUT OUR INTERPRETATION OF WHAT WE DO IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. IF WE SEE OUR REALITY AS BEING GOOD, POSITIVE, ETC...YOU CAN BE SURE YOU WILL HAVE A BETTER DAY THAN SOMEONE WHO SEES IT AS BAD, NEGATIVE, ETC.

WE ALL HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO SEE OUR REALITY IN A BETTER WAY. LET'S LOOK AT THE GOOD STUFF AND CONCENTRATE ON CREATING MORE OF IT. ITS SEEING WHAT WE HAVE AND NOT FOCUSING ON WHAT WE DON'T.

LET'S OPEN OUR EYES AND BE GRATEFUL FOR OUR REALITY :)

AFTER ALL...WE REALLY DO HAVE A GOOD ONE

DEBBIE

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Talk To Deb: LOVE

Talk To Deb: LOVE: "LIKE THE WAVES OF THE OCEAN...LOVE HAS IT'S EB AND FLOW...WE LOVE, WE WONDER, WE QUESTION, WE CONFLICT, AND THEN WE LOVE ONCE MORE. -DEBBI..."

LOVE

LIKE THE WAVES OF THE OCEAN...LOVE HAS IT'S EB AND FLOW...WE LOVE, WE WONDER, WE QUESTION, WE CONFLICT, AND THEN WE LOVE ONCE MORE.

-DEBBIE SAPORTA-

Talk To Deb: SUNFLOWERS

Talk To Deb: SUNFLOWERS: "TODAY I AM OUT IN SOUTHAMPTON, AND I PLANTED SUNFLOWER SEEDS. LAST YEAR, TO MY SURPRISE I PLANTED SOME, AND THEY GREW INTO TALL BEAUTIFUL SU..."

SUNFLOWERS

TODAY I AM OUT IN SOUTHAMPTON, AND I PLANTED SUNFLOWER SEEDS. LAST YEAR, TO MY SURPRISE I PLANTED SOME, AND THEY GREW INTO TALL BEAUTIFUL SUNFLOWERS. I WAS SO PROUD OF MYSELF WHEN I SAW THEM. THEY ARE A REMINDER OF BREEZY SUMMER NIGHTS, SUNNY DAYS AT THE BEACH, LONG WALKS, LIGHTENING BUGS IN A JAR, ICE CREAM, WARTERMELON, AND BARBEQUES. THAT MAKES ME SMILE :)

WHAT REMINDS YOU OF SUMMER AND MAKES YOU SMILE?

DEBBIE

PEACE

WE CAN ONLY FIND PEACE IN OUR OWN HEARTS...IT'S NOT WHEN YOU GET THAT GREAT JOB, FIND THAT SPECIAL PERSON, OR TRAVEL TO SOME DISTANT LAND. IT'S WITHIN US... TRY TO LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE, AND SEE WHERE IT LEADS YOU... FINDING PEACE IS A CONSTANT PROCESS OF WORKING ON OURSELVES...EXPLORING WHO WE ARE AND WHY WE DO CERTAIN THINGS....WHAT MAKES US TICK?

WE ALL ARE SPECIAL AND UNIQUE. NO TWO OF US ARE THE SAME...AND THERE'S A REASON...WE HAVE BEAUTIFUL INDIVIDUAL QUALITIES THAT WE POSSESS TO OFFER THIS WORLD.

FINDING PEACE WITHIN OURSELVES IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING WE CAN DO FOR US AND EACH OTHER...ACCEPTANCE, UNDERSTANDING, FORGIVING, AND LOVING WHO WE ARE INSIDE CAN LEAD US TO A BEAUTIFUL PATH...LET'S ENJOY THE JOURNEY AND BE AT PEACE.

DEBBIE

Talk To Deb: ATTITUDE

Talk To Deb: ATTITUDE: "WHAT IS YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD LIFE? DO YOU APPROACH IT WITH ZEST, JOY, AND EXCITEMENT? IF YOUR ATTITUDE POSITIVE? DO YOU BELIEVE AND SEE TH..."

ATTITUDE

WHAT IS YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD LIFE? DO YOU APPROACH IT WITH ZEST, JOY, AND EXCITEMENT? IF YOUR ATTITUDE POSITIVE? DO YOU BELIEVE AND SEE THE GOOD IN LIFE...THAT'S WHAT YOU'LL GET...IF YOU DO.

ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOU FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE AND FIND CONSTANT FAULT AND CREATE DIFFICULTIES IN YOUR LIFE...THEN THAT'S WHAT YOU WILL FIND.

HAVING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE CAN START EVEN IF YOU WERE BROUGHT UP IN A NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENT. IT CAN BECOME A HABIT AND A GREAT WAY TO LOOK AT LIFE YOU MUST WORK FOR IT AND WANT IT ENOUGH TO GET IT.

LET'S SAY IT RAINS ON A SPECIAL DAY...GRADUATION, YOUR WEDDING, A BARBECUE..HOW DO YOU RESPOND...DO YOU FEEL OVERWHELMED AND OUT OF CONTROL? CAN YOU CONTROL THE WEATHER? HA VING A GOOD ATTITUDE CAN START WITH REALIZING THAT YOU CAN'T CONTROL CERTAIN THINGS...OR OTHER PEOPLE.

REALIZING THIS AND KNOWING IT, CAN MAKE US KEENLY AWARE THAT SOME OF OUR LIVES ARE NOT OURS TO MANAGE...THINGS HAPPEN...SOMETIMES REALLY BAD THINGS...BUT IF YOU DIG FOR THE POSITIVE IN THE SITUATION...YOU CAN USUALLY FIND IT. IT'S LIKE SEARCHING FOR THAT ONE PIECE OF SUNLIGHT IN THE RAIN...FINDING THE RAINBOW...SEEKING OUT THE GOOD IN A SITUATION...LET'S ALL TRY TO START OUR DAY WITH A GOOD ATTITUDE...AFTER ALL...DON'T WE DESERVE TO LIVE A GOOD LIFE?

START TODAY...WE ARE BREATHING AND ALIVE...THAT'S SOMETHING TO HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE ABOUT :)

DEBBIE

PASSION

LIVING WITH PASSION...WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST, DOING WHAT YOU WANT, LOVING WHAT YOU DO? PASSION IS A WORD THAT SOUNDS LIKE IT SHOULD BE FILLED WITH EXCITEMENT, ADVENTURE, SURPRISES.

TO ME, IT'S WRITING OUT ALL THE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO... EXPLORE, TRAVEL TO, SEE, BE, AND CREATING THAT FOR YOURSELF.

DO YOU LIVE PASSIONATELY? WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT? TRAVELING, WRITING, READING, FAMILY, LOVE, YOUR WORK, YOUR MATE?

WHATEVER IT IS; WHY NOT TRY TO LIVE PASSIONATELY AND FULLY EVERY DAY...TAKE EVERY MOMENT IN AND LIVE WITH CONVICTION, DRIVE, AND DETERMINATION...LOVE YOUR LIFE...IF YOU DON'T....FIGURE OUT WHAT WILL MAKE YOU MORE PASSIONATE ON A DAILY BASIS.

FOR ME...BEING OUT IN NATURE, TRAVELING, BEING WITH MY FAMILY, AND WRITING ARE SOME OF MY PASSIONS...AND YOU?

DEB

BELIEF

"BEHIND ME IS INFINITE POWER

BEFORE ME IS ENDLESS POSSIBILITY

AROUND ME IS BOUNDLESS OPPORTUNITY

WHY SHOULD I FEAR?"

-MAC ANDERSON-

WE ALL LIVE WITH FEAR....FEAR OF BEING ALONE, FEAR OF FAILURE, FEAR OF SUCCESS, FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH, ETC. WE ARE HUMAN AND WE ALL HAVE FEARS...ARE THEY EASY TO GET OVER....NO....BUT...TAKING THE FIRST STEP IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO. WHAT'S THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN? IT DOESN'T WORK OUT...IT'S NOT THE RIGHT FIT, ETC...BUT YOU MADE THE ATTEMPT TO OVERCOME THE FEAR...YOU STEPPED OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE...YOU TOOK ACTION...THAT ALONE IS FANTASTIC! SO, LET'S HAVE ENOUGH BELIEF IN OURSELVES AND OUR ENDLESS POSSIBILITY AND KNOCK DOWN THE DOOR OF FEAR....FOR IT'S JUST A WORD THAT LIMITS OUR POTENTIAL.

DEBBIE

BELIEF

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"BEHIND ME IS INFINITE POWER

BEFORE ME IS ENDLESS POSSIBILITY

AROUND ME IS BOUNDLESS OPPORTUNITY

WHY SHOULD I FEAR?"

- MAC ANDERSON

WE ALL HAVE FEARS...FEAR OF FAILURE, FEAR OF SUCCESS, FEAR OF INTIMACY, FEAR OF BEING ALONE, ETC.

CAN WE ABANDON THESE FEARS EASILY? I DON'T THINK SO. WITH SOME WORK, WE CAN LEARN THAT THE REALITY IS...WE ALL FEAR SOMETHING...AND THE ONLY WAY TO OVERCOME THESE FEARS THAT BLOCK US IS TO GO FOR IT ANYWAY...ARE WE READY TO DO THAT? PROBABLY NOT....BUT STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND DO IT ANYWAY...WHAT'S THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN...YOU TRIED SOMETHING, YOU REACHED INSIDE OF YOURSELF, YOU STEPPED OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE...AND WHO KNOWS...YOU JUST MIGHT SUCCEED :)

DEBBIE

COMPASSION

HAVING COMPASSION FOR ANOTHER PERSON IS A WONDERFUL THING. IT MEANS THAT YOU CAN RELATE, EMPATHIZE, FEEL FOR THE PERSON. WE MUST FIRST GIVE OURSELVES COMPASSION, AND NOT BE TOO HARD ON OURSELVES. WE ARE ALL HUMAN AND MAKE MISTAKES...BEING COMPASSIONATE ALLOWS US AND OTHERS TO GET PAST OUR DIFFICULTIES AND REALIZE WE ARE ALL SO VERY SIMILIAR... JUST FOR TODAY...BE COMPASSIONATE TO OTHERS AND YOURSELF, AND SEE HOW IT MAKES YOU FEEL. I KNOW WHEN I TRY TO UNDERSTAND SOMEONE, SEE WHERE THEY ARE COMING FROM...IT CAN ONLY HELP ME BE MORE LOVING AND COMPASSIONATE TO MYSELF.

DEBBIE

COMPASSION

THE ONE THING THAT WE CAN LEARN TO GIVE OTHERS IS COMPASSION. BUT, WE MUST FIRST GIVE IT TO OURSELVES. IF WE MAKE A MISTAKE...DO WE FORGIVE OURSELVES? ... OR DO WE PUT OURSELVES THROUGH THE RINGER. HAVING COMPASSION IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL QUALITIES WE CAN HAVE. WE FEEL FOR OTHERS...WE CARE, WE RELATE, WE EMPATHIZE. IF WE CAN OFFER THIS TO OTHERS...WHY NOT HAVE COMPASSION FOR OURSELVES. TRY NOT TO BE TO HARD ON OTHERS OR YOURSELF...AFTER ALL, WE ARE ONLY HUMAN :)

DEBBIE

ABUNDANCE

IS YOUR LIFE FILLED WITH ABUNDANCE? DO YOU HAVE WHAT YOU NEED TO FEEL COMPLETE? I THINK WE ALL HAVE ENOUGH....AND YET SOMETIMES WE FEEL EMPTY OR NOT FILLED UP. HOW DO WE LIVE IN ABUNDANCE? WE OPEN OUR EYES AND SEE WHAT WE HAVE...A FAMILY, FRIENDS, SHELTER, FOOD, NATURE AND ALL THE SEASONS THAT SURROUND US, OUR HEALTH...WE HAVE SO MUCH...LET'S OPEN OUR EYES AND SEE IT. LIVE AN ABUNDANT LIFE...SEE WHAT YOU HAVE AND NOT WHAT DON'T. AND BE GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE WONDERFUL MOMENTS IN OUR LIVES.

DEBBIE

A GREAT QUOTE MY DAUGHTER STEF GAVE ME

There are moments in our lives where we find ourselves at a crossroads. Afraid, confused, without a roadmap. The choices we make in those moments can define the rest of our days. Of course, when faced with the unknown, most of us choose to turn around and go back. But once in a while, people push on to something better, something found just beyond the pain of going it alone, and just beyond the bravery and courage it takes to let someone in, or give someone a second chance, something beyond the quiet persistence of a dream. because it's only when you're tested, that you discover who you are, that you discover who you can be. The person you can be does exist, beyond the hard work, faith, belief, and beyond the heartache, and fear of what lies ahead.

IT'S TRUE FOR US ALL...AT EVERY AGE GROUP, WE ARE AT DIFFERENT CROSSROADS IN OUR LIFE...IT'S THE WAY WE HANDLE THAT ROAD THAT COUNTS :)

DEBBIE

CHOICES

WE ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE ... TO BE CONTENT OR UNHAPPY...TO BE ANGRY OR FORGIVING, OR TO BE KIND AND LOVING OR HATEFUL AND SELFISH...WHICH CHOICES ARE BETTER FOR YOU? WHICH CHOICES ARE HEALTHY FOR YOUR WELL BEING?

IT'S OBVIOUS...FEELING GOOD IS BETTER THAN FEELING BAD...HOW CAN WE MAINTAIN THOSE FEELINGS MORE OFTEN, UNTIL THEY BECOME SECOND NATURE?

WE PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. WE MAKE POSITIVE CHOICES. IF WE ARE HAVING A BAD DAY, WEEK, MONTH; WE TRY TO FILTER OUR NEGATIVE FEELINGS INTO POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS AND FIND THE GOOD IN OUR LIFE...EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR...GOOD HEALTH (LET'S NEVER TAKE THAT ONE FOR GRANTED), FAMILY, FRIENDS, A ROOF OVER OUR HEADS, FOOD IN THE REFRIGERATOR, A GOOD JOB, ETC...

LET'S MAKE A CHOICE TO SEE THE POSITIVE AND NOT LET SELF PITY GET IN OUR WAY...THAT'S JUST WHAT IS DOES...GET IN OUR WAY. WE WANT TO ENJOY WHATEVER LIFE HAS TO OFFER AND MOVE PAST OUR OBSTACLES IN A DELIBERATE WAY.

LET'S NOT GET DEFEATED. LET'S MAKE A CHOICE FOR OURSELVES...TO LOOK AT THAT GLASS AND 1/2 FULL INSTEAD IF 1/2 EMPTY.

HERE'S TO GOOD, POSITIVE CHOICES :)

DEB

Talk To Deb: FAILURE

Talk To Deb: FAILURE: "MOST SUCCESS HAPPENS FROM OVERCOMING AN OBSTACLE OR FAILURE.... WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE FAIL? WE ARE DISAPPOINTED, ANGRY, UPSET, ETC. THEN WHAT..."

FAILURE

MOST SUCCESS HAPPENS FROM OVERCOMING AN OBSTACLE OR FAILURE.... WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE FAIL? WE ARE DISAPPOINTED, ANGRY, UPSET, ETC. THEN WHAT...DID WE LEARN ANYTHING? WE TOOK A STEP...WHICH CAN ONLY BE A GOOD THING (PASS OR FAIL.) IN SCHOOL WE WERE ALWAYS TESTED...LIKE IT OR NOT...BUT AS WE GET OLDER...WE DO SOMETHING, MAKE A DECISION, A CHOICE, AND IF IT DOESN'T WORK...WE "FAILED." BUT WE TOOK THAT FIRST STEP...AND WE GET UP AND TAKE ANOTHER STEP AND ANOTHER AND THEN ANOTHER... AND THEN WE FINALLY SUCCEED. HOW GOOD DOES THAT FEEL? .... MAYBE FAILURE IS TO MAKE US FEEL SO PROUD WHEN WE FINALLY DO SUCCEED.

EITHER WAY, I WISH US ALL MUCH SUCCESS AFTER A FEW FAILURES :)

DEBBIE

TALK TO DEB

FRIENDSHIP

THE WONDERFUL THING ABOUT HAVING FRIENDS IS THAT YOU FEEL SUPPORTED WHEN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH CHANGES. IN YOUR LIFE. EVERYONE ON THIS EARTH NEEDS A FRIEND TO CONFIDE IN, FOR ADVICE, SUPPORT, AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. NOT EVERY FRIENDSHIP HAS THIS SPECIAL INGREDIENT, BUT IF YOU ARE LUCKY ENOUGH TO FIND SUCH A PERSON...HOLD ON TIGHT AND DON'T LET GO.

DEBBIE

FOLLOW YOUR HEART

WHEN MAKING DECISIONS, I THINK IT'S BEST TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART...IF YOU FEEL SOMETHING AND YOUR HEART IS TELLING YOU TO DO IT...IT'S USUALLY YOUR GUT/INNER INTUTUTION LEADING YOU ON THE RIGHT PATH...FOLLOW YOUR HEART=FOLLOW YOUR PASSION=FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS...GO FOR IT....THE DOWNSIDE...A MISTAKE...WHICH IS FIXABLE :) DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE ONE...IT CAN ONLY MAKE US MORE KNOWLEDGEABLE ...WE CAN ONLY GROW AND LEARN FROM THEM

DEB

AWAKENING

OUR TRICKY MINDS

"IF YOU CORRECT YOUR MIND, THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WILL FALL INTO PLACE" -LAO TZU- I AGREE WITH THIS STATEMENT, BUT I ALSO FEEL THAT THERE ARE TIMES IN OUR LIVES THAT WE NEED HELP AND SUPPORT, TO HELP US GET THROUGH ROUGH TIMES. SOMETIMES OUR MINDS AREN'T IN THE RIGHT PLACE OR THEY ARE HARD TO CORRECT...MAYBE YOU ARE GOING THROUGH A TRANSITION WHERE EVERYTHING SEEMS HARDER...INCLUDING THINKING POSITIVELY....AT THOSE TIMES, I RELY ON THE PEOPLE THAT LOVE ME...MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS. WHEN THINGS ARE NOT CLEAR CUT AND YOUR LIFE FEELS AS IF IT'S FALLING APART, HOPEFULLY WE CAN GET THROUGH IT BY BEING LIFTED UP BY OTHERS. ONCE THINGS FALL INTO PLACE...OUR MINDS CAN BE MORE POSITIVE AND WE CAN MOVE TO A BETTER PLACE IN OUR LIVES.

DEB

THE 7 WONDERS OF THE WORLD

http://www.flickspire.com/m/LifeSecrets/SevenWonders

THE SEVEN WONDERS OF ALL OUR WORLD ARE THINGS THAT MOST OF US POCESS ...WHAT NOT APPRECIATE THEM, ENJOY THEM, AND USE THEM WELL? HOW DO YOU FEEL? ARE THESE TRUE WONDERS?

WITH GRATITUDE, DEBBIE

FORGIVENESS

"FORGIVENESS IS A GIFT TO MYSELF. I FORGIVE AND SET MYSELF FREE" -LOUISE L. HAY- IF WE HOLD ON TO ANGER AND HOSTILE FEELINGS, IT STAYS INSIDE US AND EATS AWAY AT US. IF WE CAN CHOOSE TO FORGIVE (MEANING NOT HOLD ONTO THOSE ANGRY FEELINGS), WE CAN MOVE ON MORE EASILY WITH OUR LIVES. CAN WE CREATE A FORGIVING HEART FOR SOMEONE WHO HAS HURT US OR MADE US ANGRY?

I'LL GO FIRST...I AM IN THE PROCESS OF FORGIVING PEOPLE IN MY LIFE. IT'S A LONG PROCESS THAT I WORK ON A DAILY BASIS...I'M GETTING BETTER AT IT.

DEBBIE TALKTODEB.BLOGSPOT.COM

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER

EVEN IF IT TAKES US A WHILE TO DO SOMETHING NEW...IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO TAKE THE FIRST STEP, AND DO IT....BECAUSE WE NEVER KNOW WHAT WE CAN SUCCEED IN, UNTIL WE TRY...LATER IS BETTER THAN NEVER. -DEBORAH SAPORTA-

EXPERIENCE SOMETHING NEW

EACH TIME WE STRETCH OURSELVES AND GIVE OURSELVES AN OPPORTUNITY TO TRY SOMETHING NEW...WE HAVE THE CHANCE TO GROW. LET US ALL TRY TO INCORPORATE SOMETHING WE HAVEN'T TRIED OR DONE INTO OUR LIVES TODAY.
WHAT CAN YOU ADD TODAY THAT WILL GIVE YOU THE EXCITEMENT OF EXPERIENCING SOMETHING FRESH AND NEW?

TODAY, I THINK I WILL NOT ALLOW ANY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS OR EMOTIONS TO INTERFERE IN MY DAY :)

DEB

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QUOTE OF THE DAY

"ATTITUDES ARE CONTAGIOUS...IS YOUR WORTH CATCHING?"

-MAC ANDERSON-

THIS IS SO TRUE...IT WE ARE AROUND SOMEONE NEGATIVE, IT'S EASY TO PICK UP ON THEIR MOOD...LET'S TRY TO HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE :)

QUOTE OF THE DAY

WE INCREASE WHATEVER WE PRAISE. THE WHOLE CREATION RESPONDS TO PRAISE, AND IS GLAD.

-CHARLES FILLMORE-

QUOTE OF THE DAY

WE INCREASE WHATEVER WE PRAISE . THE WHOLE CREATION RESPONDS TO PRAISE, AND IS GLAD.

-CHARLES FILLMORE-

QUOTE FOR THE DAY

A THOUGHT IS JUST THAT...A THOUGHT

IT CAN BE CHANGED AND REPLACED BY ANOTHER THOUGHT

WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR?

I AM GRATEFUL FOR THE SUNSHINE DURING THE DAY, AND THE MOON GLOWING IN THE NIGHT.
WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?

QUOTE OF THE DAY

EVERY EXPERIENCE IN OUR LIVES POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE; CHANGE US FROM WHERE WE ARE TO WHERE WE SHOULD BE.

-DEBORAH SAPORTA-

WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR TODAY?

I AM GRATEFUL FOR BEING THERE FOR THOSE I TRULY CARE ABOUT.

QUOTE OF THE DAY

PEOPLE BECOME REALLY QUITE REMARKABLE WHEN THEY START THINKING THEY CAN DO THINGS. WHEN THEY BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES, THEY HAVE THE FIRST SECRET OF SUCCESS.

-NORMAN VINCENT PEALE-

LET'S TAKE OUT OUR TRASH

Hi EVERYONE

JUST WANTED TO SHARE A SHORT ARTICLE I READ....WE ALL NEED TO CLEAN OUT SOME OF OUR INTERNAL TRASH :)

http://www.lifescript.com/Soul/Self/Growth/Take_Out_the_Trash.aspx

QUOTE OF THE DAY

THERE ARE NO IMPOSSIBLE DREAMS, JUST OUR LIMITED PERCEPTION OF WHAT IS POSSIBLE.

-BETH MENDE CONNY

WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR?

I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE NEW AND OLD FRIENDS

THAT I HAVE CONNECTED TO ON FB.

WELCOME

I WOULD LIKE TO WELCOME YOU TO MY BLOG SITE....TALK TO DEB
I WILL POST AN INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE OF THE DAY AND WE WILL ALSO CONTINUE TO WRITE WHAT WE ARE GRATEFUL FOR....ENJOY :)
DEBBIE
TALK TO DEB

QUOTE OF THE DAY

OUR LIVES ARE LIKE THE COURSE OF THE SUN. AT THE DARKEST MOMENT

THERE IS PROMISE OF DAYLIGHT

-LONDON TIMES EDITORIAL-